If I did a survey and asked men what they truly want in their lives, I would get so many answers but I'm pretty sure that most of them would sound something like this, I want success, money, many women, fast cars, to dress nice, overall a pleasant life experience.
It's totally fine to want these things even though they are considered superficial, but we are not going to deny that it's OK to be materialistic, and want the best for yourself, it's OK to work hard to acquire all those things too.
I want to go deeper than that though, to explore what most guys would want, I'm also including myself in this survey because it is something that I have been working on for most of my adult life, I have always scrutinized and analyzed myself to discover what is it that I truly want.
I have a simple and short answer for you, this may not be true for some and that's OK, but for myself and a lot of guys that I've talked to, this is actually what they want above everything else.
I'll get right to it, what we desire is acknowledgment, respect, and a personal brand that is recognized wherever you go. Let's start with acknowledgment, it simply means that your thoughts, feelings, and presence are validated by people around you.
When you're out in the world with people, it's rewarding to know that when you speak they actually listen to what you have to say and they value your perspective, they don't have to agree with you but they validate what it is that you're saying your perspective matters.
Respect is a big thing for men and it is the core of what it is that boosts our masculinity, without respect, we walk around feeling beaten down or not valued at all. I mean some guys will go to great lengths just to get respect even if it means harming other people or destroying whatever they encounter just to get respect.
Obviously, you don't need to be that radical or extreme, just understand that you want to feel respected as a man and that is what truly defines your masculinity, when you get it you move in the world with confidence and assurance.
The last part is a personal brand, I guarantee you that getting respect is a good thing but what feels even better than respect is to be recognized for something that you do that no one else can do. People are drawn to you for some type of value, think of it as your resume.
When you have taken the time to develop a skill or skills and you become very good, you instantly raise your value in people's eyes, you have something special to offer the world and people will exchange money or time for it, what I would refer to as your personal brand.
This is how people recognize you, it is what they know you for, it is your special gift that no one else can take away from you, and it is also what defines who you are at your core when everything else is put to the side.
Reclaim your masculinity and work on these three things, I promise you will not regret it.
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