Heal Yourself

I am proud to say that I am not the same man I was 5, even 6, or 7 years ago. I have worked hard to reclaim my masculinity, reframe my mindset, discard old beliefs and heal from my own toxic patterns of thought, emotion, and behavior.

Nothing feels as good as knowing that each day you are evolving, changing for the better because let's face it, life is all about change right? evolution to the next level of consciousness. Be warned, your ego does not like it when you're leveling up. Because the ego is nothing more than a set of beliefs, ideas, emotional patterns, and identity that you have structured to survive in the world. This identity forms the foundation for who you are, and it hates change, it wants to remain the same, survive. Part of being a man is cultivating the strength to cut off anything from your life that does not serve you, that includes cutting off parts of you that are redundant to make way for healthier habits, a new identity, that is aligned with your core values. In my healing journey, I came across a concept called integration, taught by a spiritual teacher called Teal Swan, its basic principle is that when we're young we develop trauma that causes us to split into different mini selves when we do not get what we want. These mini selves become their own individual selves within us in the same being, all competing for attention and energy from our main selves. This causes a state of conflict within, it's not surprising some people feel like they have bipolar disorder due to this split within. Integration then becomes the process of healing that trauma, and welcoming those split parts back to yourself, so that you are one whole being, not many persons that seem to want different things.

Healing yourself as a man is a lifelong journey, you will not become who you want to be in one day, but you will surely see a difference in your life when you resolve your traumas. One area in your life that immensely improves when you heal is relationships with people. But initially, the relationship with yourself is where the work of healing starts, forgiving yourself for all mistakes and poor choices, releasing shame from bad habits, letting go of pettiness, and committing to growth. When you change, the world around you changes too, this is an old principle in spirituality that says we only perceive the world in accordance with how we are inside. Any shift in this inner perception consequently is reflected on the outside. A lot of the change we desire on the outside simply means changing ourselves from the inside. For example, when you decide to be a more pleasant person, kind, and in a good mood, people naturally gravitate towards you more than when you're grumpy.