A brilliant but controversial content creator on YouTube had amazing conversations with his audience. It would always baffle me how most conversations would slowly move from friendly banter to a full-on war of words.
Granted he might have chosen a style of communication that would be considered abrasive by many, but I'm going to defend him and say that majority of his audience was not prepared or ready to hear his version of the truth.
One of the fascinations of watching his content is that anytime he would present a perspective that would be polarizing, the immediate response would be trying to wiggle out of the truth and make way for exceptions that did not necessarily move the conversation forward.
The most common tactic the critics would use would be to invalidate what he would be saying by doing everything possible to counter the argument by making ridiculous arguments just to feel right.
But the host was always on point and he never allowed deflection or misdirecting of the conversation, so he would always challenge the critics to provide proof for their arguments and they never would, because what they wanted was not to have a meaningful discourse it was to just be right.
This got me thinking, how many times in your life as a man do you also come across people like this, in this case, women who are not interested in what you have to say, all they want is just to feel right?
This post is not to shame women in any way for having a voice or giving their opinions on matters, it is simply to highlight one of the tactics they use in conversation when they hear information they're not prepared to accept, or it triggers them.
What they're going to do most of the time is argue, take you around in circles, refute simple facts, insist on remaining neutral, or overvalue feelings over facts all in an attempt to shut you up because they can't win the argument.
One of the qualities of a strong man is his ability to stand firm on what he believes to be right, but he does not impose or push his ideas on people, instead, he refines his communication and uses other qualities like persuasion and charm to get his point across.
You do not have to back down or bend over backward to accept opinions or ideas that conflict with what you know, this is something that women will test you on, whether you like it or not they are going to argue with you and make it difficult to have any meaningful conversation just to see how you react to pressure.
Instead of getting mad or upset understand what is happening, in such moments they just need to be right, they're not interested in the truth or what the facts are. So what you can do is just drop your own need to be right, which is just your ego wanting to win, and focus on keeping the mood light.
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