Reclaim your masculinity blog unapologetically encourages all men to have standards, standards in dressing and looking dapper, standards in conduct and behavior, and standards in the caliber of women they would like to bring into their lives.
It seems pretty okay for women to have standards when it comes to the men they find attractive, but somehow men are shamed for having standards, the deflection in that narrative is that all women are inherently beautiful, lovable as they are.
Granted all humans have value, but intentionally downplaying the value of hierarchy in society, and the value exchange is both shortsighted and a common tactic meant to elevate one group, and remove any accountability thereby allowing them to have a free pass.
Protecting women's delicate feelings, in my opinion, is why that narrative insists men treat all women as 'beautiful' but makes it okay for women to judge men, pick and choose what is attractive to them, but refuse to acknowledge men have standards as well.
As a man reclaiming his masculinity, give yourself permission to judge, analyze, scrutinize and evaluate everything you allow into your life, particularly women. Do not be afraid to voice your standards, as long as you maintain respect and basic human decency.
Become comfortable 'hurting' those so-called feelings with your truth, stand on what you believe in and recognize all the tricks some women will use to try to throw you off your center and be more accomodating towards them, stand your ground.
One area that you should not compromise on when it comes to having standards with women is how they treat you, talk to you, and say to your face. It's completely unacceptable to allow shady comments, sneaky remarks, passive-aggressive humor, or insults.
Also, list down qualities you find attractive in women, and make them your standards, stick to them with no compromise, as long as they are not far-fetched or unattainable. Personally, my standards are flawless communication, excellent hygiene, a pleasant attitude, and respect.
The world will always respond to you based on your value system, and boundaries. The standards yous set for yourself determine how women also respond to you. You want beautiful, sexy women to find you attractive? stand out by having high standards.
When you set those standards, become a match to them, that is the whole reason for working on yourself to become a high value exuding positive masculinity. Be prepared to face a lot of backlash and criticism from low-value women triggered by your standards.
Treat the backlash as noise, an indicator that your bar has gone higher, therefore you must be doing something right. I defuse the backlash I get from women who say my standards are too high with humor and clever wit, I tease them by asking them their standards.
Comments