One of the core principles of masculinity that I have admired and strived to embody for a long time is leadership. Ever since I was a small boy, I have been fascinated by the idea of an authority figure having influence over situations and people, firmly making decisions and directing the course of action to be followed.
Watching a shepherd leading his flock of animals through plains and grasslands in the countryside when I would visit my grandparents, or the teacher leading us to the assembly line on Friday mornings, but my favorite was watching the police commander or army general leading other officers in procession marches.
All this is very noble, but what good is it if you cannot lead yourself to begin with? the first person to lead before you appoint yourself a trailblazer for others is yourself. Leading yourself could mean making the smallest decisions like what clothes look best on you, to decide, for yourself, what you want to do in life when it comes to serious matters like career or where to live.
You will agree with me that decisiveness goes hand in hand with leadership, you will not lead yourself if you're unable to make decisions quickly and get going. Leading yourself then means making decisions always, then getting ready to deal with all outcomes that come from those decisions without whining or complaining.
Exercising and staying in shape is an example of leading yourself, you are taking responsibility for your health and taking yourself from one state of being to another, taking yourself from being unhealthy, to being fit and active. It is so easy to say become sloppy, then end up fat and depressed, but who is to blame for not leading yourself to health? You.
Deciding to do things that make you happy is another example of leading yourself, too many guys complain to me how they end up in social situations that are fun, to begin with, but quickly turn violent when too much alcohol is consumed, and rational minds turn chaotic, my response is always the same, you are not tied there, you can lead yourself out of there.
Settling in a miserable relationship with a partner who stops making the effort to meet your needs after a while, and takes you for granted yet you are doing your part is not leading yourself. Make the decision to lead yourself out of that misery and take full responsibility for your happiness, then walk away. Lead yourself out of a toxic relationship, and into a better one.
Reclaim your masculinity and start being a leader in all aspects of your life. You will feel more in control, therefore, end the internal conflict caused by indecisiveness, looking outward for someone to tell you what to do is a poor strategy, no one knows what you want better than you.
Become a leader even in your dating life, women love it when a man takes charge so that they can relax into their feminine knowing that they are in safe hands.
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