I'll cut to the chase with this one, guys, this is probably one of the things that are seriously killing your masculinity and ensuring that you do not get what you want in the world, not getting the respect that you deserve either from women, colleagues, friends, or family.
It is also probably one of the things that if you fix and get it right will instantly improve your dating life and raise your attraction in the eyes of the women that you truly want.
Let's take a trip down memory lane back In time and figure out where this problem seems to have started. Think back to when you were 16,17,18 years old in high school and you did not like a few things in your school.
It wasn't that big of a deal but would have improved your experience in school, pick a quick example like the food sucked but you quietly learned to deal with it and find ways to make it better.
You did nothing even though the school regularly asked students to voice any complaints they had, you decided to heckle at cooks every time you would sit down to eat.
Fast forward to university, you had a small circle of friends enjoying yourselves as college students, you noticed in your circle of friends that some of them did not pull their socks or make any effort to pay for drinks or chip in when you're splitting bills.
Out of school now and you're working your first job, and you find that some of the more experienced coworkers tend to take advantage of you, give you errands to do sometimes and you don't like that, but instead of talking to HR about it, you go to rant to coworkers.
Fast forward to the present time you're in a relationship with a gorgeous woman, you've been happy for the last two years, and everything seems to be great but a few things about her behavior irritate you.
You dislike her nagging about some things but you don't address it directly, instead, you stew in resentment and look for ways to correct her behavior without dealing with it directly but she can see right through your passive aggression.
Can you see a pattern in all these examples that I have laid out? Do you see what is the common thread in all of this? The point I am making here is that a weak trait that you might have developed growing up is being a whiner, endless complaining but doing nothing.
I can tell you that one of the biggest turnoffs for women is a guy who constantly complains and whines, but doesn't take any action to remedy the situation, especially if it is something to do with her behavior that she knows she is guilty of.
She doesn't see you taking action, you just allow her and others to walk all over you but you let it slide, instead, she has to put up with your endless complaining, you become just like her, emotionally reactive without a plan of action.
Reclaiming your masculinity means that you will have to learn how to be solution-oriented, and how to roll your sleeves up to get to work fixing what you can about what it is that you see wrong in the world that is in your control.
You cannot change everything in the world, but you definitely can do something about it to make a difference because if no one does anything about anything, then nothing gets done.
Become a man focused on solutions, not the one who always rants.
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