You're Winning, You Don't Know It Yet

I will get straight to the point with this one: a lot of us men are so blinded by loneliness and solitude that we overlook that things are not as bad as they seem.

Our self-esteem takes a hit because our attention is outward, not inward. What do I mean by this? If you are a guy with integrity and honor, then you are not the type of guy broken women want.

Yes, you're not their type, and that's fine because why would you want to be desired by someone who is not healthy? It's not a secret that there are unhealthy men and women out here.

Is it not better to be desired by someone healthy, optimistic, and who has taken the time to build their character? If you say anything other than yes to that statement, there is something fundamentally wrong with you.

I digress, guys, shift your focus from wanting to be liked by women just for a second and see the point I am making here.

Women love attention; they take the shortest route to anything, avoid taking accountability, and are very conflict-averse. So if you are not the guy who is easy to manipulate, why would they bother putting themselves at risk of failing to get what they want from you?

Get it? What I am suggesting is that if you find yourself alone for a long period of time, chances are you are unattractive to exploitative women who are on the lookout for weak men to give them what they want.

Now, if you look at this truth closely, that's what you want, no drama at all in your life, you can focus on your goals because your energy is not drained. So before you start blaming yourself for not being attractive, consider that it's because you're not the man for the job.

Which job? the cleanup guy, the sucker to give his attention to a woman unwilling to be better or meet her needs in healthier ways.

So now that you have a shift in perspective, what do you do with this new information?

Stop worrying about your loneliness, stop basing your worth on being liked by women, stop assuming all women are good and have honorable intentions, and start seeing why having no feminine chaos in your life is a good thing.

Finally, realize it's not your job to fix women or change their habits, that means if there are no healthy women in your environment worth your time, it's not your job to help them become better so you can pick one.

Save your energy and time on your goals; the vacuum in your life will only be filled by an equally self-aware woman who has done what you have done, developed herself, and brings real value, not demands and entitlement.

We are problem solvers by nature, so it's not surprising you feel the need to fix women so that you can get what you want. This is not telling you to be mean or cruel to women for being broken.

What I am suggesting is shift your focus away from why women are broken or how to fix that, to how to become a better man. The gold diggers and sex workers will keep walking past you because you're not their target. Start to celebrate that and be glad that you don't fit the description of who they want to exploit.