I haven't written something in a while because I was working on some things, but now I'm back. There's a topic that I want to address that has been on my mind for a while now. I have had conversations with people about this, but everybody seems to dodge direct questions so I thought I would write about it.
Everybody knows or has heard the word accountability. And in this article, I'm going to address accountability in a different way than how it is understood. Accountability, in my mind, simply means a willingness to accept information about oneself when presented to you by an outside party.
So, in dating and relationships, accountability for me means their willingness to receive feedback from the opposite gender or from the same gender about themselves. To be specific, I'm going to address accountability in women, and in future articles, I will address accountability in men.
My biggest frustration has been every time I'm in conversations with a woman and you ask them a direct question about something they seem to not want to be held accountable, and they tend to deflect, downplay or minimize what it is that is being said if they do not like it.
How many times have you presented something to a woman and what you got was something like this, who hurt you? You must have been heartbroken, right? Who are you to say that? Not all women are like that, even men do this sometimes, and the deflection goes on and on and on. You get the point.
It seems as if women cannot or should not be held accountable, but at the same time, men are expected to always work on themselves, they can be criticized and told where they're going wrong and how they can fix themselves. But the same does not apply to women. I find this idea very disingenuous.
So, I have a theory that. Says it seems in today's culture women should just be allowed to be “themselves” and that however they behave is acceptable, but men can be corrected and told to improve? I'm going to be direct and say that as a man, you should hold women accountable at all times.
Obviously, you should watch your language and be respectful as possible, but hold them accountable and do not be afraid to speak up against poor behavior, poor choices, and disrespect of any kind.
In your dating life as a man have the courage to let a woman know that you can see where she's going wrong, how it is a violation of your boundaries, and point out a few ways that she can correct herself so that she can have a smooth, respectful interaction with you. This is you leading and being proactive rather than just projecting.
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