Before you start getting triggered by that title, allow me a chance to make my case about single mothers. To start with, reclaiming your masculinity is not about bashing or belittling single mothers, it's about holding men and women accountable, but mostly telling men the truth about women's mating strategy, and their true nature when it comes to seduction.
Having said that, I have no problem with dating a single mother, but giving her lifelong commitment and taking on her child/children as my own, and being a stepfather is a whole different conversation that needs to be had, men, you're not a meal ticket or a savior to a single mother, you're a man that deserves love, appreciation, and children of your own.
One issue with dating a single mother is that you will never be her first priority, her child or children will, that creates one problem for you the man, you will never feel truly appreciated for who you are, you will always feel like just a paycheck despite what she says. A woman without kids on the other hand will make you her priority as the man in her life.
Most single mothers also are not willing to be accountable for their share of their problems that resulted in them being single mums in the first place, you will always be hit with how the baby daddy was this or that, never will a woman take responsibility for pushing away a good man, cheating, or in most cases choosing poorly, victimhood is their favorite blanket.
Granted men deceive women and break their hearts, but its also women's choice who they lay with, and end up getting pregnant, aside from rape cases, or mental health issues, it seems that single mothers struggle to be truthful about getting pregnant before getting a commitment from a man, this is where you as a man needs to stand firm and guard your commitment.
Single mothers are good at telling their story but omitting the truth, shifting blame, and portraying themselves as the victims of a toxic relationship, they will then tell you, the single naive man that they have changed and you would be lucky to be with them, but your biggest blunder will be to believe this trope, vet carefully, ask hard questions and you end up revealing the truth, which is they made mistakes too, chose poorly, and made emotional decisions like punishing the man by withholding his child or children from him.
They will then twist everything to paint themselves as the victim, and the man the toxic one, but expect you to come and love them, raise those children, and live happily ever after. Understand that such a woman only sees you as a meal ticket, a provider for her children, not as a human being who deserves the truth, love, and respect.
In conclusion, the harsh truth is that the value exchange between a single childless man and a single mother is very unequal, most times a single mother's demands are way too high for what she will bring to the table, most times she will want a financially stable, faithful man to provide, but her SMV is lower because of the children, meanwhile, your SMV as the man is higher, so you do not need to lower your standards to accommodate her.
Date single mothers, but be cautious to commit to them, but be honest and straightforward with them from the jump, her children are not your responsibility, you deserve to sire your own and continue your legacy, not rescue another man's legacy from despair.
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