The Biggest Lie You've Been Telling Yourself

In this post, I aim to maintain a neutral stance, given the sensitivity of the topic at hand, which is causing considerable distress, harm, and damage to reputations.

A man from abroad embarks on journeys to various nations, capturing the encounters he has while documenting his travels. However, much of the discussion online revolves around how he seems to charm women with ease, persuading them to accompany him to his apartment, where he reportedly engages in sexual relations before sharing these encounters online.

The discourse predominantly focuses on issues of consent and the anger expressed by women regarding their privacy being violated. I empathize with this frustration and recognize that it is unethical to share recordings of individuals partaking in private moments without their consent.

While much has already been said on this matter, many, particularly women, appear to ignore another aspect of this scenario: the casual way in which these women seem to willingly engage in perilous situations with someone they do not know, without displaying any caution or concern.

They often hide behind the notion of consent, deflecting from the clear risks they are taking, but I want to address the men in this discussion. I encourage you to pay attention to how women are responding to this situation.

What you are observing is a realization that you have long been reluctant to confront: the majority of women do not live up to the ideals you believe them to embody. The traditional, cultured, feminine, and modest woman that you envision does not exist.

Women have evolved, and it's time for you to adapt as well, which means recognizing the stark reality: women now embrace autonomy and sexual freedom more than ever before.

They can choose to engage with whomever they wish, and there is little you can do to change that. Therefore, it is necessary for you to reflect on a few choices that I will outline.

Having seen the blatant lack of concern for personal safety exhibited by these women in their pursuit of excitement, I urge you to examine the anger that may be rising within you after feeling misled into believing that women are these modest individuals who constantly judge you for not committing.

Are you feeling sufficiently angry? Good, now ask yourself, what actions will you take in response to those feelings?

This situation is not merely about women compromising their values and normalizing a form of exploitation; it revolves around your expectations of women and how you have long placed them on a pedestal, seeking approval at the cost of your own self-worth, while believing you were engaging in a fair dating arena.

The system is biased. You were raised to adhere to chivalrous ideals, remain traditional, and accept their imperfections, but they deviated from those unwritten rules and chose a different path.

I want to emphasize that I do not mean to imply you should abandon your sense of honor or treat them with disrespect. Instead, I urge you to acknowledge how you've unintentionally trapped yourself in a situation where both parties lose.

Rather than directing anger towards them or projecting your feelings, consider using your observations to establish new boundaries in your interactions with single women in the dating world.

Let go of the notion that most women act with genuine intentions; many do what they wish, as they have the freedom to do so. What does this signify for you? You should not waste your time, focus, or commitment without receiving anything in return.

Your attention and dedication should be earned; allow a woman to demonstrate why she merits a role in your life or the enjoyable lifestyle she claims to desire at your cost. The only entitlement they should have is basic human respect; everything else needs to be warranted.

Avoid falling for the misconceptions they promote about being virtuous women who deserve certain privileges or should receive courtship before intimacy is considered. The harsh reality is they depend on your innocence to get their way, fulfill their desires, and still secure what they want when they’re finished.

You still maintain control when it comes to commitment; you choose who you invite to be part of your life as a long-term companion. You possess the crucial advantages, so don’t jeopardize them.

Finally, while they indulge in their fantasies and seek temporary distractions from their dull single lives, focus on learning from their mistakes to elevate your standards. Hold no grudges; simply observe their behaviors and respond with keen judgment.