Any man reading this article knows the term toxic masculinity is ubiquitous, men have been called toxic, misogynist, and benefactors of the patriarchy. Before I continue, I will acknowledge that we have displayed toxic behavior through rape, murder, violence, etc.
However, are these allegations always accurate? or are they sometimes shaming tactics used to demonize men, as an emotional reaction to something that has nothing to do with us? What I mean is, toxic women will use toxic masculinity as an escape from accountability.
Men's toxic behaviors are always checked by society, but who checks women? who tells women they are wrong without mincing words? I am here to encourage men to check women and hold a mirror up to their faces so they can see when and where they fall short.
One way men have been falsely accused of being toxic is when they refuse to let women have their way all the time, or holding women accountable for some of the poor decisions they make out of emotional reactivity.
Let me elaborate, many women have called me toxic because I refused to accommodate their indecisiveness, desperation, princess syndrome, and entitlement. Despite these behaviors yielding negative outcomes like trauma, loss of time, I still get to be the bad guy for uncovering them.
The backlash I get any time I tell women that they should check their entitlement is amazing, no matter how politely you bring it up or how much you spin it to come out as sensitive, somehow you don't get to expose women like that, you must be toxic.
Guys, be keen and see how toxic masculinity is being framed to make you feel wrong for having any pushback against unacceptable female behavior. Another common tactic used is to ask you who hurt you, you must be damaged for calling out toxic femininity.
The other day, I asked some ladies if paternity fraud is an example of toxic femininity, and it's almost like I confessed to a crime, the level of hostility I got from the ladies for even insinuating that a woman can trick a man into pregnancy was truly dumbfounding.
Having said all this, every man has a choice to reclaim his masculinity and learn discernment, understand when missiles are launched to bring you down, and when real issues about real toxic masculinity are being addressed.
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