Gentlemen, here is a short story for you to look at and see what you can learn from it. Imagine you meet a wonderful-looking and beautiful young lady, and you approach her. Take her number and set a date.
The first date is great, you two have a wonderful time. You talk about your childhood stories. You share experiences in your life and everything seems to work out just fine. You meet on a second date and you can tell she likes you, but she's taking it slow.
You have no problem with that. You take your time, you do not rush her into anything, and things generally her attraction seems to be escalating.
After a couple of weeks of dating and hanging out, you get intimate which means you're considering starting a relationship, she's having fun being around you, you like her vibe and energy, and you also feel inspired being around her anIts Not Her, Its You (Part 3)d she feels safe being with you.
It seems to blow your mind that you found someone who likes you for who you are and does not pretend to be somebody they're not, to add to that she's a great listener. this might be a new feeling because you thought you might never be lucky in relationships.
Looking back at your track record you tend to sell sabotage by behaving in a way that sends the wrong message to the women, you do not want to complicate things but your mind can't stop overthinking.
You find yourself dwelling too much on everything that could go wrong, and your mind starts coming up with all sorts of crazy ideas about why she is just stringing you along and using your time.
Suddenly, because of all this self-created anxiety, you stop doing the things that you were doing that kept her interested and stirred her emotions.
You stop calling her, flirting with her, or even setting dates, the most frustrating thing that follows is when you communicate it feels like a drag.
Because of this energy shift she also starts to pull back from you, what does that do? it further heightens your anxiety, what seemed to be an excellent and blossoming relationship has now turned into an energy drain.
The two of you are now on a rocky road where communication is not flowing, accusations start to be thrown around on each side about why the other one is to blame for the breakdown.
Not only that, any slight disagreement seems to trigger emotions and unpleasant feelings that have been boiling under in both of you without your knowledge.
After a long struggle to reignite the romance and get things hot again, she stops responding to your texts, or returning your missed calls, she ghosts and leaves you dumbfounded with a million questions.
What happened here? can you guess? has this ever happened to you?
Stay tuned for a possible explanation.
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