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It's Not Her, It's You (Part 4)

Just a quick recap from the last article that I shared with you, imagine a scenario where you meet a very attractive woman and you hit it off, things are going well but then all of a sudden there seems to be a dip in the connection, out of the blues she is not responding to your communication, you panic because you do not understand what is going on.


This is common in dating, there are several reasons for this but I'm only going to address one possible cause of a loss of attraction.

one trait that you have to have as a man that is going to ensure success in your dating life is leadership.


You're the one responsible for initiating communication with a woman, leading the interaction from one point to another, making plans for how you're going to interact, and being in charge, calling the shots.


That does not mean that she remains in the backseat following your orders like a slave and she's completely hands off. She has the right to consent or say no if she does not like your proposals, it's within her right to give her ideas and suggestions for your decisions.


For polarity to remain strong, you need to be in the front line guiding the interaction between the two of you, this way she can relax in her feminine and trust your leadership because for the most part, she does not want to be the one making all the decisions.


What happens when you stop leading and she finds herself in your position making all the decisions while you take a backseat? she will start to feel the pressure to be the one in charge, and if she does that, then she loses attraction for you as a strong leader.


The way she is wired is that the moment she's senses she can walk all over you, problems start. She begins demonstrating behavior traits that will frustrate you, she will be throwing objections your way, not only that, she might even be sarcastic and comical when you try to forcefully impose your will.


The most obvious sign to watch out for is stonewalling you or putting up hurdles when you try to connect with her again because she is losing interest, and when that happens it's only a matter of time before it is too late to reignite the passion that you had in the beginning.


Therefore, you can see how important leadership is in keeping a woman interested in you. Sometimes as men, we face hurdles and difficulties that drain us within, and we feel like we do not want to maintain that leadership position expected of us.


In such moments, it feels like an easier option just to drop everything and relax but doing this is detrimental to maintaining attraction with a woman. That's why it is important for you as a guy to always lead and be willing to make hard decisions, but be ready to also take full responsibility for those decisions without complaining.

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