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Who's Really In Control?

Let's cut to the chase guys, you're going to agree with me that for the most part, we would all wish women would be easier to deal with, they would be a little more straightforward like us, direct, and easy to figure out.


I've got some bad news, this is a pipe dream, it is not going to happen, women will not get easier to deal with and you shouldn't want that, instead, learn about their nature and make peace with who they are at their core.


Women are emotional beings ruled by their emotions and this is not a bad thing nor is it a negative thing, it's just the simple plain truth. A better strategy is working on yourself as a man, and being emotionally in control.


Understand that the only thing you can change is your reactivity to their behavior that comes from their emotions, and become aware of your anxiety and reactivity to their behavior.

The fact is that women are reactive, flaky, indecisive, inconsiderate, and vague.


This is just who they are at their core and is not something to be upset about. Learning this is the first step to minimizing indignation so that you can interact with them from a place of understanding rather than misplaced expectations which will lead to frustration on your part.


However, I am not in any way advocating for allowing disrespect from them or not doing anything when they behave poorly, or not standing up for yourself, I am simply making the point that there is little you can do to control a woman's behavior.


All you can do is have boundaries in place and not tolerate their poor behavior by directing your attention and time to where you are more respected. Another thing to note is that not all women are going to be interested in you.


You must recognize signs of disinterest early enough so that you do not waste your time on women who we'll never be attracted to you, focus on those that have higher interest, and respond positively.


This is one area that has been an Achilles heel for me in my dating experience, I've had to learn how to not take women's behavior personally, to just handle my triggers and insecurities within so that I only react how I want to.


You will find that the more you are in control of your own emotions the more it doesn't matter what a woman does or says, if she's not responding or behaving in a way that you like, you simply remove your attention and focus on your goals and purpose.


Do not reward poor behavior, you simply walk away with your head high and integrity intact, the reality is that some women simply just do what they feel like regardless of the consequences, they know what they are doing for the most part.


Sadly, some women are poorly socialized or nobody holds them accountable for their behavior. In contrast, other women are a little more mature and emotionally stable, they always take accountability for their actions, it's better to focus on such women instead of complaining about the ones who do not seem to care about being responsible adults.


Reclaim your masculinity and be in complete control of your frame when dealing with emotional reactivity from women. You will become more attractive when you can dance with the chaotic nature of female energy without losing your cool, or getting butt hurt.


When a woman sees your rock-solid demeanor in the face of her waves of instability, she not only feels safe to relax, she is positively challenged to learn to be more self-aware through you.


If you like her, you can bring your masculine strength to her turmoil and teach her to be less destructive. She will be very relieved to know her reactivity is not a threat to you, and her attraction to you will skyrocket.

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